Being Confident or Being Conceited

Confidence and conceit are not one and the same. A conceited person is arrogant, which is offensive. It demagnetized right away because conceit is a sign of low self-esteem. Conceited people have something to prove-or at least they think they do. The are actually trying to hide insecurity.

When you lack confidence, you waste your time trying to get others to think you are secure.

Confidence is absolutely necessary. It is fundamental that you understand who you are and embrace who you are.

Phases of Confidence
1. Core- Your sense of confidence begins in you. What you believe about yourself, how you see yourself, and what you say about yourself matters. Your actions will inevitably reflect your expectations. Similarly, your actions are limited or expanded based on your expectations. Your expectations are a direct reflection of your confidence-the degree to which you have embraced your potential.

2. Investment- The most important investment a person can make is in themselves. Confidence increases as we increase our capacity to excel. We do this by making investments in ourselves. When you make investment in yourself, you instantaneously expand your capacity to excel. Capacity is another word for potential-your ability to maximize your gifts.

3. Practice- Anything worth having is worth working for. It is the process that produces a powerful skills set-skills that will sustain success. The process also serves to refine our sense of confidence.

4. Reflection- Reflection builds confidence. Sometimes mistakes and rejections can be the best thing that can every happen to you, if your perspective is properly aligned.

Confidence is more than a word. It is a way of life. When confidence truly becomes a way of life, it determines your lifestyle.

The key to continued growth is learning from your experiences. Once you know who you are (step one), consistently make investments in yourself (step two), and practice to perfect your technique and skill (step three), then you have to take the time to reflect upon what you have learned (step four).

A confident style must be a part of your lifestyle. It will not reflect around you until it first begins inside you.

Evans, Marshawn. S.K.I.R.T.S in the Boardroom. New Jersey: John Wiley & Sons, 2009. Print.

Until Next Time

It is quite common to hear people say: "Think positive!"

But what does think positive really mean?

All of our feelings, beliefs and knowledge are based on our internal thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. We are in control, whether we know it or not. We can be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. These attitudes are maintained by the inner conversations we constantly have with ourselves, both consciously and subconsciously.

The first step in changing our attitudes is to change our inner conversations.

What Should We Be Saying?

The three C's: Commitment, Control and Challenge.

Commitment
Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself and others. Dream of success. Be enthusiastic.

Control
Keep your mind focused on important things. Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize to practice your actions. Develop a strategy for dealing with problems. Learn to relax. Enjoy successes. Be honest with yourself.

Challenge
Be courageous. Change and improve each day. Do your best and don't look back. See learning and change as opportunities. Try new things. Consider several options. Meet new people. Ask lots of questions. Keep track of your mental and physical health. Be optimistic.

Studies show that people with these characteristics are winners in good times and survivors in hard times.

Research also shows that,
"... people who begin consciously to modify their inner conversations and assumptions report an almost immediate improvement in their performance. Their energy increases and things seem to go better ..."

Commitment, control and challenge help build self-esteem and promote positive thinking.

Positive thinking helps with stress management and can even improve your health

The health benefits of positive thinking

Researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:

Increased life span
Lower rates of depression
Lower levels of distress
Greater resistance to the common cold
Better psychological and physical well-being
Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress

It's unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits. One theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body. It's also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don't smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment.